It’s scary how people can become comfortable with almost anything. If it happens to YOU and around YOU long enough… comfortability will eventually set in. Whether it’s becoming comfortable and desensitized to violence; growing up in a “tough” neighborhood, abuse in a terrible relationship, money and privilege in a rich family, or dangerously just existing in your life, job, and marriage. Have you ever reached a point where enough is enough? It’s time for a change, but what do you do… and who do you do it with? This is the time where you will make one of three life changing decisions… to dream and act!… dream and exist… or stop dreaming and drone.
Have you witnessed the zombies walking among you… with little purpose to their existence and frustrated by the roles they play as workers, parents, partners, etc…. They’ve stopped dreaming and drone negatively throughout their life and yours if you let them. Then there are the dreamers but “exisiters”; they ponder their dream, but have no real intent or plan to make it happen. To them, dreaming is good enough… and carries them about as they are content and happy for others who may achieve their vision. Then there is the Dreamer who acts…. When enough is enough… when dreaming or droning will no longer do… it’s time to act!
So, what to do? The answer is… work backwards. What is your dream life? As, I’ve mentioned before… most people dream of tangible or material things; there’s nothing wrong with that, but please include what your dream life looks like in the various roles you play as a parent, son/daughter, sibling, worker, etc. Do you have your answer? Write it down… this is your vision…. Your life… and no reason why you cannot achieve it!
Now work backwards… for example, your dream is to have a second home at the beach for you and your wife to get away to, your kids to visit when they’re older, and pass down as a legacy to your family. Working backwards… you’d have to purchase the home, find the right home, meet with relator or land development agencies, have good credit, have the money for the down payment, have or earn the money, meet with a financial planner, have a dream… So meet with a financial planner to get your current finances in order and develop your strategy.
Another example… you want to be a great husband or wife that your family looks up to… let’s work backwards… You are that cute old couple walking through the mall holding hands and still in love that everyone envies, you’ve adapted to the changes life has brought your way (physically, emotionally, psychologically), you’ve practiced tolerance and acceptance, allowed for separate interest and couple’s interest, raise and cared for your children with love and support, practiced forgiveness, and consistently showed love, honor, and support for one another, their needs, and their dreams. To start this dream, make sure you are becoming the type of person that your dream-partner would be attracted to: mentally, emotionally, physically. Then find out their dreams and their vision for their dream-life… support them, build them up, and be their Dreamleader!
If you have had enough… and are ready for more out of life… the time is NOW! Vision your dream-life in every aspect and role you play, work backwards and EVOLVE!!! Share your thoughts at www.facebook.com/menevolvingnow/
written by: Andre Young
