You Evolving Now Blog – Get You Triangle Right! (Chapter 1 of my 7 Ways to Love Book)

In this frantic pace of life, it’s easy to let the daily duties of the day become more important than living a more EVOLVED way. It’s easy to let your life, your kids, your job, and the day to take over. Now add this up day by day, month after month, year after year, decade after decade… how can happiness, joy, love, and relationships win?

We are all busy in our own way… throughout my time as a marriage counselor and CEO of You Evolving Now, I have encounter numerous men and women and hear the same thing. Typically, men pridefully say and defend themselves with, “I work, work, work”. Women tend to say with pride, “My life revolves around my kids”. Do you know where they say this… in counseling with their marriage hanging by a thread or already over. Work is necessary, but cannot be the only thing that brings value to you or the relationship. I’m sure your kids are amazing, but what did your partner hear?… That they are not important, can be pushed aside, and irrelevant. So, what to do?

Let’s get your triangle right! Imagine a triangle… at the top is your faith. If you are a faith-based person and your faith helps you to be a better person, have a better relationship, and live an honorable life… that is at the top. If you are not a faith-based person… talk with your partner about your dreams, motto, and doctrine of your relationship and family. This is what guides you… not the kids, not your job, and not the duties of the day. On the bottom-right side of the triangle, is you and your partner. This is the person you have chosen, love, and respect… remember to cherish, love, respect, date, and care for each other… and make sure your kids witness it! On the bottom-left side of the triangle, is YOU. It’s necessary to care for yourself, treat yourself, follow YOUR dreams, and live your best life. The kids are not forgotten… they are in the middle of your triangle. All points of your triangle will revolve around them filling them with love, lessons, and direction.

If your job is on the top… what happens when that job goes away? If your children are on the top… it breeds entitlement, parental servitude, and… the kids are supposed to leave one day. What is it like ending up with someone you’ve neglected for 20 plus years? They may no longer be the person you remembered, add resentment, possible dissatisfaction and/or lack of interest… and you have a recipe for possible disaster. So… get your triangle right and EVOLVE!!!

written by:

Andre Young

 

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