Social media is amazing at how quickly people can post their lives, adventures, vacations, and fun! Go on any social media site and you can see people living their lives with their families, partners, and kids… all with smiles and excitement. However, when talking to people…. isn’t it odd that their talk doesn’t match the post. They are complaining about their lives, their job, the relationship, their duties of the day. Particularly, their relationships… with snide comments, venting, subtle or blatant put downs, etc. Have you ever been around a person that talks so lovingly about their partner or builds them up right in front of you? It’s powerful, encouraging, inspiring, and beautiful! The great thing is… You can do it too and so can everyone else!
The truth is, you can’t go out and talk or think poorly about your significant other all day long, then come home and love them. Day after day, month after month, and year after year… it will beat you and your relationship down and ultimately YOU and your family will lose! Throughout my years as a mental health therapist with a specialty in marital and family counseling the biggest lessons I’ve learned and assisted with was identifying and managing your thoughts. Your thoughts will lead to a feeling, then an action, then a consequence (positive or negative). If this is true… if you are thinking and talking negative about your partner, life, kids, etc. all day long, it has to affect your feelings all day long, then your actions all day long, and the consequences turns out to be more negative… you feel more irritated, more disconnected, less intimate… you get the picture. Now multiply this my days, months, and years… and don’t forget to add in that your partner may be doing the same! Life will BE different when YOU begin to think and do different. Why not start today? Think great about your partner, your life, etc., purposefully talk great about them (to them and to others) and see how it feels. What could it hurt? Share your thoughts with me at the You Evolving Now Convention on 11/15/16! Come meet me, the Convention team, and EVOLVE personally, relationally, financially, and your overall health! Enjoy great food, networking, experience a life change, and begin to live your best life in all aspects and roles you play! Get your tickets today at https://goo.gl/90m5M4
written by: Andre Young
