In this day and age of instant access and social media… everything is at your fingertips at a moment’s want and everyone is a star; with their lives posted for for all to see. Sometimes the rut of life blinds you… and all you can see is the front stage of people’s lives, your wants, and desires. What do I mean by front stage? These are the things people want you to see… their nice home, car, happy posts on social media, their achievements etc. In your rut, it becomes easy to want and feel as if you deserve those things too. Why isn’t your life, your partner, your kids like that! You begin to compare your partner and your life to the front stage of other and your wants. They are now running a race they don’t even know they are in. If they do know… How must that feel?
The truth is… for every front stage, there’s a back stage… the things you don’t see. You don’t see the work it took for that person to have their front stage. The extra hours at work, waking early, going to the gym, sacrificing for their successes, etc… or… the dysfunction in their life and home because of all the sacrificing and stress it took to achieve their version success. You have no idea! The only thing you do know is… you like their front stage and would like it in your life too. There is nothing wrong with that, but let’s do it right!
Step 1: Don’t compare their life to yours, their partner to yours, their relationship to yours, their stuff to your stuff.
Step 2: Find out what you like about their front stage brainstorm a vision for your life, lifestyle, and relationships as an individual, partner, parent, professional, sibling, son/daughter, and friends.
Step 3: Is what you want realistic, fair, and doable for you, your partner, and your current lifestyle?
Step 4: Develop a plan of action to achieve it. Success will be found in your daily agenda and dedication to your plan.
Step 5: Enjoy the process, keep your eyes on your dreams, but allow for various paths to take you there.
Step 6: Enjoy your partner, family, and life in the present for who they are and what it is… NOT… for who you’d like them to be or what you think your life should be like. Be sure to self-care as needed and enjoy the splendor of YOU! Happy EVOLVING!!! Share your experiences with me at www.facebook.com/menevolvingnow
written by: Andre Young
