It never ceases to amaze me how quickly and easily people can gravitate to negativity. Of course this doesn’t apply to everyone… but, ask the majority of people, “How are you doing”… and let the complaints and grief begin. It usually begins with how much they dislike their job, the weather, or their relationship… and the ever positive, “I could complain, but who’s listening”. This occurs with people you don’t know… remember the mean and hurtful things you said the last time you fought with you partner, friend, or family? I implore you to “Listen Up” to the words you use! Hear how YOU sound, what the other person is hearing, and the witness the negative energy you may be putting into your relationships (personally or professionally)
There are two major forms of communication you can use to EVOLVE and have the relationships you desire. Number one… intelligence isn’t always in the answers you give, but also in the questions you ask. The most powerful and simply question asked is… “Why?”. Most people focus on WHAT happened and react; creating a damaging cycle of negativity. Try this… focus on WHY it happened and react to that. This does not mean you ignore WHAT happened and don’t have emotions… it means you have your feelings, but are not driven by them as the end all to everything. Seek understanding, share your feeling, set boundaries, and venture forward if you choose.
Number two… LISTEN UP. Most people are trying to share, assert, or prove their point… usually while the other person is talking and doing the same. Most successful people ask questions, seek information, evaluate, and apply the information received. This cannot happen without curiosity and listening. Apply this as a parent, a son/daughter, employee, boss, husband/wife and see your life EVOLVE! Share your thoughts at www.facebook.com/menevolvingnow/ Happy EVOLVING!!!
written by: Andre Young
